In my last blog post, I talked about how re-storying your life story can be a powerful way to transform your inner world and, subsequently, your health. Another compelling strategy that we can practice is this:
Agreeing to be here.
We are all living our lives, but some of us haven’t fully agreed to be here and embrace life as it unfolds. We are silently resisting and protesting our life. We are partially in our bodies, but mostly living in our heads, as if we are sleepwalking.
Agreeing to be here means accepting that you are alive, here on planet earth. It means that you are living your own unique life; in your own special circumstances; in your own individual body. Just as importantly, it means not hating, cursing, and attacking your life and your life story by viewing it as deficient, broken, miserable, and not good enough.
Agreeing to be here means you accept that this is your life, your body, your circumstances, your age, gender, income, etc. Accepting that these are your parents, your children. These are the dramas you’ve lived through, the challenges you’ve faced, the heartbreak, the joys, the ups, the downs…
This doesn’t mean that you have to love, sanction, or approve of any of the harmful behaviors, betrayals, and wrongs done to you by others. Yes, you can acknowledge how very difficult all of it has been, but if you do not consciously agree to be here, then you will have no interest or motivation to grow and change. You can become apathetic, bitter, resentful. If you do not agree to be here, then why practice healthy habits such as exercising, eating nutritious foods, or being truly authentic? Why work hard at digging deeply and doing all of the difficult, inner work that needs to be done in order to transform your life? You will look for the quick fix and travel down the path of least resistance, which will not get you to where we really want to go and become who you are truly meant to be.
You have a choice. Right here. Right now. Will you show up and live your life in a world that, we all know, can be harsh, unjust, and unfair? Agreeing to be here means that we look at the world for what it is and agree that as long as we are alive, we will participate to the best of our abilities and not be in protest of our very existence.
Welcome to your life!